When Life Throws You Onions

Most of you know that I am a very fit, active, always on the go, independent, self-sufficient woman. Well ALL of that changed last week. Like come to a screeching hault change. So a little history, I had been having really weird symptoms for about a week, in the beginning stages, I didn’t think anything of it. Heartburn that wouldn’t go away then days later, an odd constant inconvenient pain in my abdomen, that turned into UTI symptoms, went away then came back, and finally back pain that felt like gallstones all over again (it wasn’t because I had that removed in 2013). So those symptoms stacked upon each other day after day. Well being the stubborn woman I am, just kept on with life as usual. Saying to myself “I have my yearly appointment on Tuesday, I’ll just bring it up to her.” Tuesday finally comes, I bring the topic up, and she seems a little concerned but nothing out of the unusual. She runs the tests she’s capable of doing, all come back clear. No UTI, no kidney stone, no bladder infection, no cysts, nothing. She then tells me to go check myself into the ER for further GI testing because SOMETHING is going on. So I did just that. Walked my little self across the street to the ER, check myself in. Hours and multiple testings go by and they can’t figure out what’s wrong, except that the only thing they can see is major inflammation on my right side. Let me tell you, when an ER doctor and surgeon don’t know what’s wrong with you after a lot of testing…….you get a little worried. By this time Jordan, my husband is with me. The ER doctor comes in and says “Well, we think it’s your appendix, but we don’t 100% know and we won’t know exactly what’s wrong until we do some exploratory surgery”. I’m sorry, do what? Surgery?…………

 

So long story short, it was my appendix. It ruptured as soon as he opened me up which lead to a three day stay at Brookwood Hospital. Which I have to say, I had some amazing care! The nurses and staff made it a point to make my stay and care top notch, and that it was, top notch! Anyway, the outpouring of love from family and friends that came afterwards was truly impacting. That people do still care. This surgery was God sent. Not only for my literal life, but my marriage, my pride, my ego, and business. When God is trying to get your attention, He’ll use whatever it takes to shake you, and it did just that. My business was put on hold, I had to cancel appointments which really erked me, because I am such business minded person and wanting my business to flourish. But God had other plans for me. Be still because I’m about to break your spirit, your stubbornness, your attitude. I HAD to depend on someone else doing for me. Even to help me to the bathroom those first few nights because I literally couldn’t do it on my own.

My amazing mother drove from Collinsville to Brookwood (about an hour and a half drive one way) everyday for three days to be with me. My dad who was working in Georgia, came to be by my side the night of my surgery and the next day. My aunt came that night as well. My incredible husband, we hadn’t been on great terms here recently (just being real), stayed at the hospital during the nights and stayed up to comfort me when the pain was too much to bare on my own. They were there. In those moments, I felt like God was telling me this is how I need you, I need you to depend on me, I need you to need me. Let’s be honest here, me and God really hadn’t been on good terms, for more than a year but that’s another blog post for another day, but in the events leading up to my hospital stay, I felt his nudges. The events after the surgery came with even more breaking and realization. Not only learning to trust Him again, but showing my husband that he is needed, that I do rely on him. Two days after I was able to come home, I had a huge bridal show for my business and here I was could barely stand and move around. At every turn, I felt God saying “I got you”. My best friend of nearly 19 years came down from Fort Payne to graciously help me with the show along side my husband. When I say I could not have done it without them, I legit could NOT have done it alone. There again breaking my pride and ego. I could go on and on with this topic……

Even though my surgery was painful, the realization of pride and ego and stubbornness being addressed in me has been more painful……….but oh SO worth it! Because of my willingness to address those painful onions life dealt me, my marriage is healing and other relationships are mending. One thing those damn onions have taught and teaching me is, I’ll take those onions, if it makes me a better person, a better human, a better wife, a better daughter, a better, friend, a better sister, a better …………….. well……….. me.

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Our 1st EVER Blog!

Well, it has only taken us forever to jump on this bandwagon, but hey better late than never right! Why not start this new chapter with introducing a little bit about me and us! Bear with me if I’m not doing this thing right, and forewarning, I can get on tangents, but that’s life and women, right? Anyway, here goes nothing! (what does that even mean? Another southern slang!)

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Hey Y’all! I’m Amanda and this is my husband Jordan! We’re the Robbins! Our journey officially began November 5th, 2011, that’s when I became a Robbins. I grew up on a farm out in the middle of nowhere northeast Alabama where the closest Walmart was 30 minutes away. Cows, horses, dogs, cats, pigs, chickens, 4-wheelers, muddin’, bonfires, hangin’ out in the Walmart parking lot with friends because that’s all there was to do (other than getting in trouble) tractors and pastures, that was my life before moving to the “big city” in 2009. I was a country girl and I loved every minute of it, minus living so far away from my friends. I was homeschooled, not because we lived that far out but other reasons my parents thought was necessary. That’s another story for another day. Jordan on the other hand the polar opposite, a true city boy. Hangin’ out at the movie theater, going to the mall to just walk around, sports, etc. He lived in Atlanta for most of his high school years if that tells you anything. However, when we met and got to know each other, we both found each other lives to be so fascinating, not that is was so glamorous but so different than what we had ever known. So long, long story short we both now love that happy medium, we love the outdoors but we also love going to the mall! Here’s us on our wedding day!

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Being married for 6 years has had it major ups and downs and so much learning, but I don’t think I would really trade any of it! We fight, a lot, but the love far outweigh those. There have been times we didn’t want it any more but we always come back to the love that first brought us together. Here is my two minute marriage advice; always, always remember the love that drew you together. Yes, people change, we change all the time, but going through life and the down right shitty things that happen, yeah, you’re bound to change, you need to change. Tragic events, losing a loved one, infertility, financial stress and struggles, careers, school, standards, family, life, all the above and much more have shaped our individual lives and our marriage. When it comes right down to it, you have to make a decision of what in important to you. Ok, off that soapbox.

Business……so I have always been a very organized, detailed person, even as a young child. My wedding planning business started after my own (cue the eye rolls). Honestly, I just love weddings. I love everything about them. From the old tradition, to the new love and new traditions, seeing a girl just beaming with excitement, literally everything. I was really heartbroken when my wedding was over, I really missed it. I was one of the first of my friends to get married, so when friends started asking what I did or how I did it, I loved it and really wanted to help! I talked business ideas with my mama for a very long time, ideas from a gown shop, to a bridal makeup artist, a resource library type to make finding vendors easy, and finally a wedding director and planner. I researched and researched everything I could find related to wedding planners. What the average cost was, where were they, how they got their clients, what exactly they did. From there and with a little push from my mama decided to create AMR Bridal Events in 2014. I did a few weddings for free because I just wanted the experience and to see if I was really cut out for this. Well I learned everything I needed to know with those few weddings, mainly what not to do and how important a contract is, for both parties! Since then, education is still one of my goals year after year. I never want to stop learning! I now focus on client experience and building relationships, with each bride and other vendors.

So that’s a little bit about us and AMR!  We’d love to hear your thoughts on our first ever blog! Here’s my declaration, to keep sharing a little bit of our lives, our amazing couples, and what’s next!

Here’s my shameless plug…..I’d really mean the world if you would share this, follow us on FB and Instagram and all that fun stuff! @amrbridalevents is where you can find me!

 

Talk soon!